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When the Going Gets Rough:

9/12/2015

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Art imitating life...
I've noticed a parallel between my creative life and my daily life. I'd like to share a recent insight about what happens when the going gets rough. We've been having some family challenges lately, occasionally making it difficult to get to my studio. And I've been working on a big project for an up-coming show, requiring mechanical engineering, something that's not my strong suit. (I've talked about this big doll before, a big "alter-ego" flip doll, which when completed, will hang from a trapeze and flip to one side or the other. It sounds great, but believe me, this is turning out to be a lot more challenging than I expected!)

What's wrong with "something's wrong here?"
As an artist, you have to learn to fail. You try one technique and it doesn't work. Frequently you have to start all over again. Feelings such as frustration and doubt can come up. What I've noticed is, though, is that the feelings themselves aren't the problem. What gets me really stuck is when I think, "there's something wrong with feeling this way," or worse, "there's something wrong with me for feeling this way."

This feeling of "something WRONG," can become as weighty and challenging as if that bison (above) from our family vacation last month in Wyoming, were heading straight at you (more about that another time-it was a great vacation!)

What is "wind-horse?"
Easing into an acceptance of whatever feeling comes up seems to be the key to moving forward. It's so interesting how art mirrors life (always.) As I described in my last newsletter, this doll is about the contrast between a side of me that looks more to the outside world for guidance, is concerned with the opinions of others and hears an internal critical voice (this is the Barbie, Anita Bryant side,) and the other side, Miranda with Pegasus, a woman bareback on a horse, who is free, guided internally by something called (from the Shambala tradition, meaning acting from a strong central core of courage, balance and freedom) "wind-horse." The doll reflects my own movement back and forth from one side to the other.

Some keys to moving forward when the going gets rough
Here's what I've discovered so far as a key to moving forward:

1. Having a "believing mirror," someone to whom you can turn and who provides loving support as you face challenges. This can be an internal part of yourself. For me, my dolls provide that mirror, though I of course also rely on the support of those believing mirrors in my life, my husband, friends, mentors and guides, wherever I may find them. And it's so wonderful to be able to turn for help when I get really stuck on a technical challenge. 

2. Recognizing the difficult feelings as they arise, whether it's self doubt, frustration, impatience and accepting them as a natural part of the process, uncomfortable, yes, but sometimes necessary. It's when I think these feelings are wrong that I get stuck. 

3. Remembering the "end game." It's when I think things like, this situation isn't fair, or it should be resolved now, or any other way in which I try to force a solution that I get stuck. It's when I think that this doll has to be perfect, or it has to provide a certain result, that I get stuck in my art. But when I think about what I am learning from the process, how I am being given an opportunity to grow and learn,that I can rest in the process, knowing that the result isn't really the goal.

A note about some up-coming programs
There it is for all it's worth. My insight for the month. Below I write about two up-coming programs-one, a workshop I will be offering at the "Smith Center for Healing and the Arts" next month, and two, the venue for our "Materialized Magic" show, which will be coming up in March. Stay tuned as I will be writing more about both in the coming months. 

NOTE: The Smith Center workshop and the Del Ray show aren't yet up on their websites as of this writing. Please check their websites for updates. 

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2 Comments
Anne DeMarsay
9/12/2015 05:43:47 pm

Erika, thank you for the reminder that difficult feelings that come up are part of any creative process and are not "wrong." I fell into that trap recently, thinking that I should be farther along on a project and that something was wrong with me because the results I hoped for were slow to materialize. It's always reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one!

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Erika link
9/14/2015 06:07:16 am

Thanks, Anne, for your thoughtful comment. I'm glad to hear that you were reassured. It does help to feel we're not alone with this.

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